Archive for November, 2006

A few days…

It’s been a few days now since we all said goodbye to Jerry. For those who couldn’t make it to the memorial service, we know your hearts and thoughts were with us. We now have to face the daunting task of getting used to life without Jerry. Sarah and I are now back at work and Mom has her brother and father in town for a while to keep her company.

I made reference in an earlier post about a possible ‘Evening of Music’ in Jerry’s honour. Those plans are progressing – we have a tentative date of December 11th, which hopefully being a Monday won’t interfere too much with pre-Christmas plans. The venue has yet to be finalized, but will be in downtown-ish Toronto. There will likely be some ‘performers’ but everyone is encouraged to bring their instruments – an open mic or jam session (or both) is definitely on the agenda.

~ Colin

Home Movies

I dug up some video I shot of Jerry (and friends) performing at the Ontario Renaissance Festival in 2004…

Video 1

Video 2

~ Colin

Home again

Mom finally returned home this evening after having spent the almost three weeks in Toronto. Being home is bittersweet – so many reminders of Jerry are both a comfort and a source of sadness.

Many of you have offered to do whatever you can to help. So far, we’ve not taken advantage of these offers, but with Mom home now, having meals for her to eat is an area where a little assistance might be useful. If you’d like to bring a meal around, just send us an email to let us know – but PLEASE, PLEASE do not feel any obligation to do so.

Here again are the details for the Memorial Service & Visitation:

Visitation: Thursday, November 16 from 7pm to 9pm

Memorial Service: Friday, November 17 at 2pm followed by a reception

Coutts Funeral Home
96 At. Andrews Street
Cambridge, Ontario N1R 5W6
519-621-1650
www.couttsfuneralhome.com

Colin & Sarah

Memorial Service

There will be a Memorial Service for Jerry on Friday, November 17th at 2:00pm in Cambridge. Visitation will be Thursday evening from 7-9pm. More details to come.

For those unable to attend the service and/or visitation, we are planning a Memorial Evening of Music in Jerry’s honour in Toronto in early December. Details to follow.

An Explanation

I just wanted to explain to everyone what happened yesterday as it must be confusing to many how it could have gone so badly so quickly.

Early Friday afternoon, very soon after Sarah’s post, Jerry suffered heart failure. His heart had become enlarged (who would have thought Jerry’s heart could get any larger!) as it was straining against the embolism to get blood to his organs. Though Jerry survived the heart failure, we were told early in the evening that there was nothing more, medically, that could be done for him. A few peaceful hours later, he was gone.

But not forgotten. The doctors have all said that he was a ‘remarkable’ patient – we all know he was a remarkable man. Now is the time to focus on the years that we had with Jerry. His smile, his music, his kindness. We each have stories – fond memories of his life and I invite you to share them here* so that we can all smile together at the memory of Jerry Gonnelly.

~Colin

* if you are reading this on the main blog page, simply click the title of the post to reply directly to this post. You can also email your memories of Jerry to us at jerrysrecovery@gmail.com.

Thank You.

Your support has has kept us strong.  Your love has warmed our hearts. You were all there for Jerry when he needed you most.

Jerry Gonnelly passed away peacefully at 11pm Friday, November 1oth held in the arms of his family.

Arrangements are being made through Coutts Funeral Home in Cambridge.  Details will be posted here when they are known.

Linda is staying at Sarah’s in Toronto for the time-being.

Things are looking up!

Jerry has been pretty stable for the last 40+ hours! As a result, they have taken him of his JET ventilator, his paralytics, and his sedatives! Now, they can better assess his neuro function.

Jerry hasn’t moved yet, but that is understandable as he is quite swollen from lying in bed and his muscles haven’t moved in several days.

We haven’t talked to the doctor yet today, but I will update you all further once we have more details.

This is very heartening news!

Sarah

“Quite Stable”

Mom and I talked to Dr. Paolo this evening (yes, first name basis).  He reported that Jerry is “quite stable” and has been for 24 hours.  They are weaning Jerry off the JET ventilator and he was off it for awhile this evening.  They also took Jerry off one of his paralytics so they can monitor his neuro functioning.

Jerry will no longer be having surgery to insert a filter in his abdomen to catch blod clots from his leg.  Dr. Paolo said that the clots are in a peripheral vein and pose no imminent risk.   The procedure is long and there is no need to put Jerry at risk in his condition.

All this is good news!  It’s been a much, much better day today!

Sarah

Jerry’s Family

While sending positive thoughts and prayers for Jerry and mom, please remember his father, Tom, and his brother, Martin, in New Jersey.

This is a difficult time for them, especially since they cannot be here with Jerry.

Sarah

Hope…

When attempts to wean Jerry off the special JET ventilator failed, the doctors decided that they had to make a definitive diagnosis. This required disconnecting Jerry from the ventilator that was keeping him alive and rushing him to an MRI using only hand-pumping to keep him breathing; the doctors weren’t certain he would survive the trip. Sarah and I waited outside his room for him to come back. When he did, he was still breathing. The nurses and doctors were euphoric. He was quickly hooked back up to his special ventilator and within 20 mins was stablized.

It was discovered through the MRI that he has a pulmonary embolism (blood clot in his lung). This, plus the damage to his lungs caused by pneunomia, has made it impossible for him to breathe on his own.

An ultrasound of his legs revealed more clots, which could potentially travel to his lungs, heart, or brain. Since the standard aggressive anticoagulant treatment carries the risk of more bleeding in his brain, he has been given a run of a mild anticoagulant. If he is stable enough tomorrow (Thurs), he will receive surgery to put a filter in the artery from his leg to prevent clots from travelling to the rest of his body.

The good news is that we have a definitive diagnosis. The doctors and respiratory therapists are working together to find a way to see him through this precarious stage of his recovery without further brain damage.

There is reason for hope. Jerry is in good hands. He is being cared for by people who have proven their expertise and their genuine concern for his well-being.

If any of you are feeling helpless, please remember that your thoughts and prayers are very real and reach Jerry and give him strength. They also provide our family with the support that we need.

Never underestimate the power of mind and spirit.

We know you are with us and we thank you for it,

Linda

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